coming out online is easier, less stressful because no one knows you.. everyone’s a stranger, there’s no danger, no consequences. but once your mom starts getting suspicious and asking questions your heart suddenly stops, your chest grows heavy & your eyes threaten to water.. the thought of family finding out starts becoming a problem and you feel like you can’t breathe. you feel like you have to watch what you do and say because one little thing threatens the peace.
@mutuals stop and think before you reblog a post that has the word “lgbtia+” in it. advice from your friendly intersex mutual, archy: STOP dragging intersex ppl into the lgbt community. idc if you think aces/aros are lgbt just stop dragging other ppl into this. stop putting a fucking i in the acronym. intersex isn’t a gender OR a sexuality- it’s a medical condition. we have time and time again asked for you guys to recognize this, time and time again asked for you guys to stay out of our issues, but you continue to misgender us and use us as props for your arguments. your “lgbtia+ positivity” isn’t nice, it’s hurtful, it literally makes me so dysphoric because i’m basically being told that my genitals and chromosomes somehow make me inherently nonbinary. i’m not lgbt because i’m intersex, i’m lgbt because i’m trans and gay. y’all aren’t being “inclusive” or “recognizing our issues,” most of the time y’all don’t even know what intersex means and it’s obvious when you group it in with genders and sexualities. by dragging us into the lgbt community you are misgendering so many people and intersexist as fuck.
Hey so uhh this is exactly true. The intersex community is very divided on this and I say this as an Intersex person who runs an intersex inclusion survey with over 30,000 responses (you can check out @intersex-survey)
A lot of us want to be included or at least want the OPTION to be included. I and many other prefer to be included with the option to opt out instead. I and others like the “I” or “Q+” so please don’t take one person’s word on this.
I’ve also found that people who don’t want intersex people to be included tend to be more inclusive in other areas (like aces and aros) but that’s just a fun tidbit.
My stance is, allow people to be included and then personally exclude themselves because that’s easier than trying to be included individually.
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